Neuro-Linguistic programming (NLP) – NLP skills fit well into coaching, because NLP encapsulates three important elements in its title. ‘Neuro’ is the mind, our thinking. ‘Linguistic’ is language, how we use it to influence other and ourselves. ‘Programming’ is not about computers, but about how we sequence our actions to attain our goals. So, NLP in short is the study of how language affects how we think and therefore our actions. NLP proposes that change can be approached from three directions by changing the way a person talks about an issue and by changing his or her behaviour. NLP uses a number of distinctions that are helpful in coaching.
NLP and its function.
The most basic idea of NLP concerns different perspectives, called perceptual positions. The first position is you point of view, your values, goals, beliefs, and interests.
The first position is ‘I’, the second position is how you imagine another person thinks and feels. It is the basis of empathy and rapport. When you take the second position you speak for the person whose viewpoint you are taking. You also use the physiology and voice tone of that person if you know it. The third position is the systemic position that can look at both first and second position. This is an objective view of the relationship between the first and second, which you can adopt without identifying with either. Each position is another point of view, using a different physiology and different language for each.
NLP helps clients get in touch with their authentic values and goals through the first position. The second position helps clients understand other peoples points of view, especially in relationship problems. The third position is used as an objective position where clients evaluate different relationships, see themselves ‘from the outside’ and can coach themselves. The third position is a very useful tool to help clients describe their present state in specific, descriptive and un-judgemental terms.
NLP will allow you to change your habits and approaches to certain aspects of your life using some of the methodology explained.